15 Ways To Convince Your Wife/GF To Let You Ride Dirt Bike

Do you have a wife or girlfriend that you’re trying to convince to let you ride a dirt bike? Maybe finances are getting in the way, or perhaps safety is the main factor. Whether your wife is against motorcycles/dirt bikes, it sounds like you need some help!

Whatever the case, this article will cover the top issues regarding getting started in the awesome sport of dirt biking.

Just remember that communication is key, and if you aren’t patient or don’t let her voice her opinion, these tips won’t do you any good.

All the protective gear

When it comes to dirt biking and convincing your wife or girlfriend, safety is often the top factor. So the first thing you have to do is explain how serious you’re going to take the safety aspect of riding. 

I’ve always been slightly conservative in my riding career because I dread the consequences of getting injured. Now that I have a family, staying healthy is even more important. 

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All of us guys geared up to ride in the mountains

First and foremost, you need to wear all of the proper protection. This means a properly fitted dirt bike helmet, riding boots, a chest protector or body armor, goggles, gloves, and riding pants/jersey or long sleeves. 

Dress for the crash, not the ride. That doesn’t mean you plan to crash. It just means that if and when you do, you’ll likely end up with bruises and scratches instead of years and broken bones. 

Best equipment

Want to take your safety to the next level? Do the research and buy the best equipment/riding gear available. Obviously, this means you need to have a higher budget, but it doesn’t mean you have to just go out and get the most expensive gear. 

For example, helmets have changed a lot over the last 20 years. A dirt bike helmet with high quality lightweight materials is going to be safer. 

Choosing one with new and proven technology, such as MIPS is also going to give you better protection in the event of a crash. 

A safe bike (for your riding ability)

Don’t let your ego get in the way: buy a dirt bike that is appropriate for your riding skill level. This means that if you’re just starting out, you need a beginner friendly bike

Riding on a slower dirt bike is safer
Riding in the mountains on a “Beginner Bike” built my confidence

You’re much more likely to crash and get hurt on a high performance motocross or enduro bike because the power is less predictable and the suspension is harsh

Done the research

Wisdom is having knowledge and good judgement. If you do all of the right research, such as reading this article, you will understand what the right choices are for your bike, gear, etc. 

Going to learn proper riding technique

Starting on the right dirt bike and wearing proper riding gear are only 2 parts to the safety equation. 

Another key factor is learning proper riding technique and skills from the beginning. You might be able to learn a lot of them over time by yourself or watching other riders, but it will take much longer and you’re more likely to crash more often. 

The quickest way to become a better rider is to get training from someone that knows how to teach the basics of riding in a way that’s easy to understand. 

That’s why I created The Virtual Dirt Biker School. Click here to learn more about it. 

Finance is a factor

The other big setback is talking about finances. Dirt biking isn’t a particularly cheap sport, and money can cause conflicts in a marriage or relationship if you don’t properly communicate. 

To keep it simple, here are 3 of my top 5 finance tips for new riders to make dirt biking more affordable:

  1. Buy used
  2. Buy reliable
  3. Get similar bikes


Insurance is boring, and it’s a pain to deal with, but it’s essential if you want to be financially smart in the long run. You may never have to use it in the event of a dirt biking accident, but you’ll be glad you have it if some freak crash happens. 

Not having insurance can make you go bankrupt if you have one bad injury, whether it’s off-road or in a car. 

It’s an outlet – hers may be shopping

Ever felt like you needed to get away and just clear your mind? That’s exactly what dirt biking does for me and thousands of other riders.

If I’m stressed or frustrated with something, a short dirt bike ride will almost always calm me down. It’s the healthiest drug you’ll ever get addicted to. 

Maybe your wife or girlfriend loves to shop; that’s her favorite pastime. Dirt biking is yours. 

You must communicate everything

Healthy communication is absolutely necessary for any relationship. If you don’t properly and lovingly communicate your desires, goals, and the reasons why, it’s going to be more difficult to convince your wife or girl to support you. 


Dirt bikes are potentially dangerous, but they don’t have to be any more so than a team sport.

I will not live my life in fear, knowing that I could get hurt. I might as well just stay in my room because anything could hurt or kill me. 

Maybe that sounds reckless to you, but it’s not if you use common sense and wisdom to make decisions. Calculated preparation will greatly reduce your risk. 

Family 1st

This isn’t a reason to get a dirt bike, but merely wise advice (this is not legal advice, but words I tell a friend). Your family should always come first when there’s any serious issue or tension. 

Dirt bikes must be put to the side whenever there’s an emergency that needs attention.

Support her before she supports you

Don’t just expect your wife or lady to automatically support you and your dirt biking passion. If you’re not supporting or interested in anything that she does, you don’t have much of a chance to convince her. Yes, even if she likes to sit and read, sow, or go on walks.

Take an interest in your woman before you need to convince her to let you ride or get a dirt bike. Ask her why she likes the things that she does and what gets her “fired up”, so to speak. It’s not that hard, at least in my experience (you’re welcome to have your personal opinion).

Invite her along

Maybe you’ve started riding, but she doesn’t like it. It’s probably because she doesn’t understand dirt biking very well. Ask her what she knows about dirt biking. And then before you consider laughing at her answer, invite her to go watch you ride the next time.

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I’m so grateful for a loving and supportive wife!

Explain what riding is like so she understands – the bike doesn’t do all the work

It could be that she has never seen someone physically ride a dirt bike in person before. Maybe she’ll understand it a little more, depending on what her previous thoughts about this sport were.

She doesn’t have to love it

In the end, even if she doesn’t go with you, she doesn’t have to love it if you’re still able to ride. You’ll just have to find other friends to ride with. You might just have a friend who’s wife rides, and then someday she’ll convince your wife/girl to give it a try.

What’s the worst that could happen?

Key Takeaways When Your Wife Is Against Motorcycles or Dirt Bikes

If you just want bullet points for practical tips and steps to convince your female significant other, here they are:

  • Plan ahead
  • Communicate well
  • Be patient
  • Family first
  • Be safe (bike, gear, ego)
  • Love her first/self-sacrifice to give her what she needs
  • It’s okay to be persistent to a point; don’t nag
  • Introduce her to dirt biking; invite her along
  • Learn the basics of riding technique if you’re a beginner

Kelley Fager

I help new riders learn how to safely ride and understand how to tune and fix their dirt bike in their garage.

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